Behavior Plan in Action

I have been very happy with how the new behavior plan has been working with student GG.  As he has undergone more testing and has had more attention it is coming out that maybe oppositional/defiance disorder may be a possible diagnosis.  That would really make sense to me seeing how he interacts with authority and other students.  A couple different strategies have seemed to be better than others.  I really try to stay away from the "you verses me" moments of the tests of wills.  From last year in his first grade classroom we saw that most of the time those moments ended really poorly.  What I do is very calmly and with little aroused emotion at all I use words to address him in the situation.  I redirect him, I give him feedback on the category of his behavior, I let him know that he is doing something that he should no be doing, or that he is not doing something that he needs to do.  The latter seems to be more common as he is often passive defiant or passive aggressive.  For example, one of his behaviors is to simply slip out of the flow of the classroom and begin to do his own thing in defiance of what the job of the room is.  Usually something has trigged it like a problem with another student or an internal conflict of something that he is remembering.  He will cease to follow directions of any sort at that point and appear to be tuning out the world.  He way wander to the computers when it is rug time or simply refuse to come in from recess time and lodge himself in the slide.  Last year mom had to come one day and pry him off of the slide and literally drag him kicking and screaming back to home.  (7 suspensions last year).  I want to avoid those blow up moments with him as they almost always end bad.  Yet, I still need to hold the line with him in terms of accountability and classroom rules.  That structure and consistency is vital for him, and the other students.  The form it has taken is to have delayed consequence.  If he does something that is defiant or "not following directions" I calmly talk him through what I see and what he is doing.  I stay as facts based as possible.  I let him know that he is not following directions and communicate to him that he has crossed a line.  I really try to stay away from any kind of shame or public humiliation.  If I can whisper it to him so that only he and I hear, then I will.  Then, later, maybe at the end of the day when we are in our reflective time on the day and the emotion of the event has passed we talk through the time and he will then have his consequence... turning cards, no tokens, missing recess.  He will often argue with me about it, but when I verbally processed it with him in that moment, I have those words to go back to with him lay out the facts very clearly for him.  He has seemed to respond well to that.  I believe that it feels fair to him even though he doesn't like it, which is key.  We will see how it goes.... we are only in October, so we have a lot of year left to go!