So, I have been using this problem solving instruction system for a couple years now and have really liked how it has worked out. Basically, it takes the approach of really trying to coach the kids on how to deal with an anger or frustration outburst before they actually get to that moment. Before I get too far into this I have to say that this was not my idea, but rather a system that I was told about. At the beginning of the year I sit down with the kids and we talk about the different sort of feelings that we sometimes have. I will often use something like the chart there on the left. We focus in on being angry and what that is like, see the chart on the right. I will have some students come up and act out a situation for me were a student looses their cool over something on the playground. When a child looses their cool we go to the stop light. First, we use the red light and STOP. We calm down by counting to ten or by taking some deep breaths. Then we go to yellow and begin to try and work through the problem. You tell your side and then listen to theirs. Try to come up with a solution. Last, we figure out a solution that is fair to everyone or maybe just walk away. A good hand shake or a hug can seal the deal. After teaching this I try to catch every little conflict in the room. I try to catch them and then help them use the chart to work through the conflict in a way that the rest of the class is catching. Usually, as soon as they see that I am walking them over to the chart to solve the problem they are more embarrassed than anything, but it makes for a great teaching moment.
